Holiday blues, the feelings of sadness that settle in and last throughout the season, become a significant mental issue for many individuals, particularly in November and December. A time of high emotions, big demands and great expectations, even individuals that enjoy being busy and attending holiday festivities can suffer mental fatigue and slight depression from the emotional letdown as the holidays ebb in January. From the perspective of Jennifer Hoi, owner of Peaceful Summit Counseling, this year may present an exaggerated set of circumstances to navigate due to the havoc and uncertainty still playing out around COVID-19. “Generally, people find uncertainty very unsettling, so I’m offering some of the suggestions that I give my clients,” says Hoy. 

“Acknowledge feelings. Don’t be afraid to reach out and talk to people. I think we’re getting beyond the stigma of reaching out for help.”

“Recognize the feelings of stress and fatigue in the body when they begin to stir.”

“Beware of unrealistic expectations. Rather than be over extended, step back, take a deep breath and create realistic expectations with attainable goals. Unattainable goals set the stage for disappointment and depression.”

“Appreciate all the good things around us, beautiful sunsets, an abundance of wildlife, beautiful weather and many of the good things about Southwest Florida.”

“Try to live in the present. Don’t compare this holiday with the holidays of the good old days.  Many times we idealize the past and forget about the negative parts. Stop pretending things were better than what they were.”

"Learn to say no. Don’t get so caught up in shopping, decorating and entertaining that exhaustion sets in and fun is squeezed out."

Hoy advises, “If you are a transplant like me, who has been in Southwest Florida for 30 years, you don’t have family here, so the friends we’ve made become our family. Enjoy them and make some great memories."

Peaceful Summit Counseling is located at 1048 Goodlette Rd. N., Ste. 201. For more information or to make an appointment, call 239-450-8090. See ad, page 31.